Parents often mention to me it’s not clear to them what’s caused their child to suddenly seem withdrawn, worried, anxious, angry, or tearful. If a child exhibits emotional or behavioral problem, or needs help with a difficult life event parents can feel helpless.
Something I have noticed using ‘Thrive’ training with children is how quickly both parent, and child adapt the underpinning ideas into practical everyday use.
The basis of training pivots on understanding and challenging your own limiting belief system. Looking for evidence to support a theory whilst also understanding and recognising your own personality traits.
For example, the child learns not only why they are plagued by thoughts about being contaminated by other people’s germs, but also understand the reasoning behind the subsequent behaviour i.e., why he avoids touching doorknobs in school, and insists on wearing gloves.
People are generally very interested in why, and how they behave in certain circumstances. To achiev
e a good level of understanding and insight is very advantageous in everyday life. It helps keep stress levels down.
Another example, is a child very concerned about looking perfect who won’t join a study group or go to a party because they are worrying about what other people will think of them. For them an understanding of what it is inside them that drives this need – means a solution for change is within their reach.
With help, kids can quickly identify the problem, and by applying the new knowledge, plus their imagination (which they usually already have an abundance of) they feel more in control of their lives, and the world they live in.
Our imagination, feelings of overwhelming fear, and powerlessness maintain each another in a cognitive loop which seems to have no beginning or end. How refreshing when we discover this not to be the case!