Young people want to be more in control of their lives.

Recently the Princes Trust published a report demonstrating that there were a significant number of young people who were finding life difficult and I began think about how the Thrive programme would give these young people the knowledge, skills and understanding to be able to manage themselves more effectively.

The Princes Trust Youth Index 2013: One in ten young people feel unable to cope with life

 One in ten young people (10 per cent) feel they cannot cope with day-to-day life, warns The Prince's Trust Youth Index.

The Prince’s Trust Youth Index reveals that young people not in employment, education, or training (NEETs) are more than twice as likely to feel unable to cope as their peers.

The report – based on interviews with 2,136 16-to-25-year-olds – also shows how more than one in five young people (22 per cent) did not have someone to talk to about their problems while they were growing up.

According to the research, NEET young people are significantly less likely to have had someone to talk to about their problems. The Prince’s Trust research showed that it is often those from the most vulnerable backgrounds who end up furthest from the job market. When this is the case, they have learnt that life can become a demoralising downward spiral – from a challenging childhood into life as a jobless adult. They believe that with the right support, they can help get these lives on track.

The charity's fifth annual Youth Index – which gauges young people’s wellbeing across a range of areas from family life to physical health – shows how NEETs are significantly less happy across all areas of their lives.

The report reveals that while 27 per cent of young people in work feel down or depressed 'always' or 'often', this increases to almost half (48 per cent) among NEETs.

Richard Parish, chief executive of the Royal Society of Public Health, said: “The Youth Index clearly shows a worrying discrepancy between young people who are in work and those who are not. These unemployed young people need support to re-gain their self-worth and, ultimately, get them back in the workplace.

The report found there was a “clear link” between levels of support a young person received whilst growing up and whether they were subsequently in employment, education and training.

The study looked at the relationship between happiness and confidence across various aspects of their lives and there has been a reduction in both these areas in consecutive years.

The areas looked at were: –

Work/education; home/accommodation; community/local area; family relationships; relationships with friends; mone

y; qualifications; physical health; emotional health.

The Thrive Programme would be an effective way of helping this particular group of young people.. Evidence from our practice shows that if people develop their own abilities to manage their own emotions they will create an internality of belief about themselves.  Is seems to me that what ever external support is offered, for it to have value, it has to develop the internality of the client, otherwise they will be reliant on others, and feel able to blame others, for the way their lives are.

We know, and research has shown us, that the feeling of self worth is extremely important. It helps develop resilience and a sense of control over our lives. (Burger, 1984, Dembroski et al 1984 and Gebhart et al 2002) “If your sense of self is entirely based on others’ opinions, it is understandable that you worry about being judged. People with an internal locus of control, , worry less what other people think, because their sense of self comes from internal sources …. So the more internal you are, the less you will fear social situations and being judged generally“ Kelly 2011

Our own online research survey is showing us that most people going through the Thrive training feel much more powerful and in control of their lives afterwards. We have found that most people increase their locus of control by around 75%.

One of my recent successful Thrive trainees wrote “I can honestly say without doubt I have not only realised that I didn't have an addiction it was just a habit, therefore allowing me to feel in control of my life for the first time in 20 years. Not only this, but every aspect of my life has improved dramatically, from work, my relationship, friends and family, and all have recognised such a positive change in me. “ EB Bury St Edmunds 2012

In fact, we have had some very encouraging developments. We are currently running some thrive training sessions in various schools around the UK… so watch this space for information about their success.

If you want to find our more about the Thrive programme and how it can help young people  or those who are not in education employment or training you can by following this link

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Kate Patterson
Thrive Consultant and Blogger